Let’s be honest—these days, relationships have more stages than a church crusade. There’s the “We’re just vibing” stage, the “We talk every day but don’t label it” stage, and then, the infamous “talking stage”—that emotional limbo where you’re praying for clarity, but God seems to be whispering, “My child, you should have asked questions earlier.”
In the Christian community, this “talking stage” has become the modern wilderness—many enter in faith, few make it to the promised land of commitment. People fast, pray, and even sow seeds for “confirmation,” yet weeks later, they’re left with blue ticks, unanswered calls, and the haunting phrase: “I never said we were dating.”
Truth be told, the talking stage often feels like pre-marital discipleship without the covenant. You invest your time, emotions, and sometimes, your precious airtime—only to realize you were just a temporary confidant, not the intended partner. And while friendship before love is wise, there’s a thin line between genuinely getting to know someone and wasting your destiny minutes on someone who’s only bored and lonely at night.
The danger is that emotional attachment grows faster than clarity. You start interpreting consistency as commitment, attention as affection, and late-night “how was your day?” messages as divine signals. Before you know it, you’re planning future wedding hashtags for someone who hasn’t even decided if you’re a “friend” or a “possibility.”
Beloved, guard your heart (Proverbs 4:23)—and your WhatsApp data. If someone keeps you in the “talking stage” for months with no direction, it might be time to talk to yourself. Love is patient, yes—but it’s not supposed to be indefinite. When intentions are clear, confusion disappears.
So, set boundaries early. Ask the hard questions. If they can’t define what you are after consistent communication and shared emotions, maybe God isn’t confusing you—they are. Perhaps, they’re not your divine connection, just your character development phase.
Remember: the right person won’t keep you guessing—they’ll make their intentions known. Because when someone is truly sent by God, they won’t just talk to you; they’ll walk with you.
